Does a Parent or Spouse with Alzheimer’s No Longer Recognize You?

Apart from having to watch a loved one go through the devastating stages of Alzheimer’s disease, the next saddest thing may be when the person stops recognizing you.   This can bring up all sorts of feelings, of which some while not fair, are there nonetheless.  When we take time to go visit a family member with AD in memory care and they don’t even know who we are, some people wonder why they are making the effort. 

However a long-term caregiver reminds us how can we be certain the person is not reacting to our presence is some way like the sound of our voice, or the touch of our hand?   In the same way people in comas have said they heard the voices of loved ones even when they were unable to communicate, perhaps a person in the later stages of Alzheimer’s knows we are there for them on some level.  At the very least, in whatever way they can understand, we want them to know they are loved and valued.    

Experts suggest a way to help make you more recognizable to your parent or spouse.  If you are an adult child, try putting together a timeline of you as a small child, an adolescent, a young adult to a current picture.  Spouses can do the same starting with a picture of them from their early days as a couple to the present. 

For anyone having difficulty being around a loved one with Alzheimer’s, it may be helpful to learn all you can about the disease so you understand what is going on.  It will also teach you better ways to more effectively communicate with the person. 

At the MorningStar at Englefield Green memory care community, we are dementia care specialists who provide both compassionate and professional care to those suffering from Alzheimer’s and other dementia-related diseases.  Our approach is holistic and encompasses every aspect of the disease as well as individualized care.  Visit our website for pricing and availability and to learn more. 

MorningStar at Englefield Green embodies the very best in senior living with a distinct mission statement of “to honor, to serve, to invest” that sets us apart from other senior living communities.  With a foundation built on honoring God, valuing seniors and investing in a staff with a felt calling to serve, we offer loving, compassionate care within a beautiful home-like setting.  Please contact us to learn more about one of the area’s finest Alzheimer’s care homes.